I have not lived so long but in the over 30years of my existence I have noticed that life has a way of balancing things out. I noticed that people have equal opportunities; the only difference is to know when it is your time and what you do with the opportunities that come your way. Seeing life from a personalized viewpoint may cause some persons to disagree with my opinion that life is fair on all of us, and gives us equal number of chances to live significant and successful lives.
The fact that you have a classmate or business associate who was born into wealth and had to just take over control of resources, or a friend who graduated from the university same year with you and 3 years later he/she has a job and is planning his/her wedding while you are struggling to get an interview for a job; most times paints a picture of an unfair world, and it’s like good things happen to only a selected few.
Have you stopped to learn from the lives of others? Have you taken out time to read about successful people and how they climbed the ladder? Very few had fantastic foundations or backgrounds or inherited wealth; most of them latched upon opportunities, took risks their friends were too scared to take. Some even got nicknamed negatively because they seemed foolish in their commitment and consistency to a cause they believed in.
Most of us lack focus and we lack this because we are void of a vision. So we are just living daily without any sense of purpose or goal, we end up measuring our level of success by the standard of another who has a vision and is focused. This is not the right thing and that is the reason you end up blaming it on an unfair world.
When I was in primary four, I had classmates who wrote their Common Entrance Exams and moved on to secondary school while I stayed back to finish primary five. As at then it was very disturbing; seeing my mates already in secondary school, guess what! After a few years when it was time to get into the university, while I got in almost immediately, some of them struggled for years to gain admission.
In some scenarios they even got into the university and were always ahead academically, got jobs and are well placed; but it will be a wrong move for me to measure my success by that standard. This is because I have a vision and as far as my targets are concerned I am on the right track and I feel fulfilled. The kind of opportunities that have come my way and I have taken advantage of are those that fit into my vision and goal. So, I remain focused and measure my success by the standards of my purpose and destiny and not by the life of my friends, classmates, colleagues or any other.
When you have no vision or goal to focus on there is the tendency for you not to know when your time and opportunity for success comes; and so, you will not be prepared to grab them. Before you realize series of chances provided by life for you to make it big and significantly have passed you by unnoticed. So what happens most times is that we begin to focus and discover later how we missed certain opportunities; it is either we wait for another to come or we give up and blame it on life being unfair. Which of the two options will you take?
For some of us we feel our achievements are not as big as that of some other person. Have you asked yourself how big your vision is? Some of us have goals and visions that will serve us and our immediate families, so the resources that life will provide and bring your way will just be enough to meet them. While those whose visions and dreams supersede their personal spheres will certainly receive provisions for the magnitude of work they have set their heart to do. Maybe you need to expand your vision and be more selfless.
Thomas Edison, Michael Faraday, Abraham Lincoln, Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Miriam Makeba and all the others who have been documented to have achieved great success had something in common. They had visions and dreams that were larger than them and their families; they were looking out to better what was in existence or cause positive change to happen, they were focused and committed to their dreams. They all have or had one head and 24 hours as we do today.
Friends we have no excuse for not living successful lives. The sky is wide enough, we can all shine. All we need to do is discover that area of life we have a vision for and focus there; remain committed and dream bigger than you. Dream of living a significant life; then you will agree with me that life is fair enough.
