Hello Fam!
How we dey?
Let’s do a little mathematics, do you know that 5+4, 2+7, 3+6, 3+3+3 and 8+1 all equals 9 as in seriously. So if I am a 9 and you are a 9 it does not necessarily follow that we are of the same composition.
As in if Gloria is 8+1 and Bisi is 3+3+3, though both are equal to 9, there is no common ground or basis for comparism.
Left to me sha based on my small understanding of comparism, the two items to be compared must have a common or equal standing so if 8+1 and 3+3+3 have nothing in common to compare them from the standpoint of the result is a fallacy of the highest order.
So wetin I dey try to talk be say, no basis for you and I to compare ourselves to ourselves. Even the Good Book says those that compare themselves are not wise. So I may be 37 and unmarried and you may be 37 and married with kids but there is really no grounds for comparism, enjoy your process, live your life to the fullness, because no man knows tomorrow.
In other words please let no man dull your shine, by comparing you with someone that is assumed to be your equal, because really no man is another man’s equal, we all are just on this journey of life, trying to make sense of each passing day.
So in case any man or woman is playing blues to spoil your reggae just tell him ‘Big deal, so what? End of story’
My people learning this secret helped me live my life on my terms, yes people assumed to be my equal are already there, they already have what I don’t, but everyman’s process and stages are different.
So look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, ‘fe ara bale’ (calm down).
On the flip side comparing yourself with your assumed equals helps to challenge you and motivate you to do more, that is what is called ‘Healthy Competition’ but the moment that comparism invokes or provokes envy, pride, malice and depression, just know you have gone to the extreme and you no need am.
This is Kafilat, Coffee or Café anyone you call me I go respond, remember to leave your comment.
I love una no be lie.