The marriage institution is amazing when both parents and relatives of the couple understand their limits in the affairs of their children and allow them make decisions about their concerns and wellbeing. Nice as the ideal scenario seem, most marriages are suffering tremendous consequences of their in-laws’ interference while numerous others have long been wrecked because the involved couples were denied the right to control their own marital lives.
In most cases however, the in-laws are not completely to blame because, even without their intention to get involved, some couples inadvertently drag them into their affairs, thereby giving them a footing in their marital concerns. Howbeit, this is not to dismiss the necessity of parental harmless guidance when required, but such must come by the couple’s consent.
In this edition, we shall outline compulsory measures couples must adopt to take ownership of their home front and as much as possible prevent any external influence that threatens the peace of their home.
I know of a family where the husband would rather take counsel from his sister regarding the affairs of his home, over that of his wife. In fact, his sister’s opinion takes precedence in every matter that concerns his marriage, including his children school and the likes. Apparently, this is an aberration.
The ideal arrangement according to the Bible passage in Math 19: 5-6, is that, there should be a ‘leaving’ to ensure a ‘cleaving’. Both the man and woman that want to become a couple, must of a necessity, detach emotionally from their parents, siblings and of course relatives, in order to concentrate on building their own family. In fulfilment of the actual concept of cleaving, external influence that enhances negative vibes must be completely exterminated.
On this principle therefore, people desiring to start a family are strongly advised to be emotionally mature and financially capable to cater to their imminent domestic hurdles, so they are able to make defining decisions on their own and most importantly be able to finance their decisions. If a man still lives in his parent’s house after marriage or runs to them for financial assistance for almost every need, then they are most likely to call the shots in that marriage and it is vice versa even with the woman. So, as much as possible, the couple must be able to stand on their own financially and emotionally, to be able to preside over their home.
Couples must understand that their marriage is their primary assignment and be ready to work at making it succeed. In doing this, they must communicate effectively and respect each other’s opinion. They should be ready to work as a team in the marriage, by being outrightly transparent with everything.
They must learn to politely prohibit interference from their family members and of course every external body and this can only be effectively practiced if they do no report their conflicts to them. A healthy family life, enhances your sound mind and productivity so, protect your marriage.
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